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“No One Walks in and Gets a Talk Show, Greg” Why you should take every shot you get.

I still remember about 12 years ago, sitting with my television agent Greg Lipstone at a sandwich shop in Los Angeles. Greg was one of the heads of television for the mega-entertainment agency William Morris. We had a few meetings scheduled with television show runners to talk about a drama …

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Creative Crisis Management

A crisis is a disruption in one’s life story, whether the particular disruption is personal, professional or political. That’s why every crisis requires creative vision, in order to emerge with as little damage as possible—or, preferably, stronger than ever. In the midst of the crisis, it can be difficult to …

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The All Important “Deck” to Secure Start-up Funding

Starting a business has an inevitable element of storytelling to it. First of all, it all starts with an idea, just like a novel does. The idea is an answer to this question: “What if?” Here are three examples: • What if people could . . . ? • What …

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DON’T BE AFRAID TO LOOK AWAY FROM THE CAMERA (AND THREE OTHER TIPS FOR TV INTERVIEWS)

For executives, authors, attorneys or anyone who is not a veteran of on-camera work, it can be daunting when a news event or a publicity tour means going in front of the camera. Sitting in a small room for a satellite interview, with an earpiece in your ear and a …

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The psychology behind goodwill

EMPATHY — the capacity to feel the emotions of others as one’s own — is the glue that binds people. It’s the psychological software that allows us to worry about a friend’s economic troubles across the country or cry at a movie. It’s also one major reason humans extend themselves …

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Ariel Castro ‘was not born a predator, he became one’: doc

I have written before that there is no original evil left in the world; everyone is just recycling pain. Ariel Castro was, of course, wrong when he claimed, bizarrely, Thursday that there was “harmony” in the house where he kept three women hostage, repeatedly beating and raping them. But he …

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Look inward to unlock secrets

In an age dominated by quick fixes, e-mail and Twitter, it’s easy to keep wearing masks that make us strangers not only to one another, but also to ourselves. What’s the antidote to this kind of estrangement? Introspection. These questions are the beginning of a journey that can reintroduce you …

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How to stay safe from predators

Headlines about predators like Anthony Sowell, whose “House of Horrors” in Cleveland contained the remains of at least 11 victims, are evidence that too many people put themselves in harm’s way by interacting with dangerous individuals. I’ve evaluated and treated murderers, kidnappers and rapists — and know some of the …

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It’s mind over marriage

Marriages are difficult — almost all of them. This should come as a relief to any husband or wife out there who thinks that the lack of emo tional intimacy and physical passion that has set in after five or 10 years together means that something is wrong with his …

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Economy brings home depression

A whole new group of patients is finding its way to my office. People in their 20s are suffering from symptoms of depression after having moved back home to seek shelter from harsh economic conditions. Many of these people are having problems with their parents, who question whether their lack …

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Past imperfect

During the past 17 years I have treated thousands of patients, including the homeless, government officials, men and women of every race, children, the elderly, minimum-wage employees and Fortune 500 CEOs. The central issue with which most have struggled is whether their likes and dislikes, talents and dreams, fears and …

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PAYING ATTENTION TO ROOT OF ADHD

I’VE treated at least a few hundred people with at tention deficit hyperactivity disorder. The symp toms included lack of attention to detail, trouble listening, difficulty organizing tasks, a tendency to lose things, fidgeting and interrupting others. But each of these people had lived through painful or confusing life events …

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TAKE A CHANCE TO FIND A FRIEND

THESE days, the things that pass for friendship make me think that people have forgotten about the real thing. People busily count their Facebook “friends” (my own profile has collected just shy of 600 of them) or they’re busy getting instant messages from pals who are really just bored and …

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SOBERING TRUTHS ABOUT ALCOHOL’S SUBTLE GRIP

OVER the course of my work, I end up treating many patients for alcohol abuse. But in the beginning, very few of them actually come to me worried about whether they might be alcoholics. Most of them come for help with depression, marital discord, stress at work or anxiety. Many …

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FURY FUELED BY EMPTINESS

GEORGE Sodini, the man who opened fire in a Penn sylvania health club Tuesday night, felt decimated by his own mother and very likely killed because of it. Sodini wrote an online diary that tells us a fair amount about who he was and gives us a window on why …

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KEEPING THE FAITH AFTER INFIDELITY

INFIDELITY is often treated as the atom bomb of marriage problems. When an affair is discovered, many people assume the only solution is divorce. But it doesn’t need to mean the end of a marriage. Instead, it can turn out to be the beginning of a closer union. Anger, jealousy, …

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FOUNDATION FOR BUILDING CHARACTER

LATELY, scores of parents have been contacting me with concerns about their children’s characters. Their sons and daughters seem focused on browsing the Internet, instant messaging compulsively and buying gadgets and clothes — but not on testing themselves intellectually, communicating from their hearts or serving others. Our children can craft …